#Holly_Willoughby on #This_Morning on Friday spoke of her sadness when her cat died recently. Pets can be an important part of our lives, family even.
The relationship with a pet is unique. They greet us with joy when we come home, they love us unconditionally no matter what mood we are in. As a dog owner I have been privileged to have a loving dog who has put its head on my lap when I have been in tears, who has become distressed for me/with me at times. He was my protector, friend, comfort and yes, I am not afraid to say it, my fur baby.
I waited all my childhood for my first dog, and was in my 20’s when I got him. Our relationship went through ups and downs, when he behaved very badly and I was screaming at him. But he was there when my marriage failed and I was on my own. That period terrified me and the thought that if I could not raise a mortgage it might mean that I would lose him as well almost finished me off. Thankfully I managed to keep him, and the house, and we were together another 11 years before he finally died.
When he died I finally realised the depth of my love for him. I was distraught, could not keep food down, could not speak to anyone of him. The house was so very, very empty and quiet. I no longer wanted to come home. I could not move on or even book a holiday because there seemed no point to it. My partner who had been with us for 10 years at that point was equally distressed. We did not know what to do and could not speak to anyone about it, because people said ‘it was only a dog get another’ or ‘why are you so upset, its only a pet’
In my world, and many other’s. PETS ARE FAMILY. In fact sometimes they are nicer than the human family you may have. They live with you for 10+ years unconditionally loving us, despite all our foibles and moods, they do not judge us, argue with us, or let us down. The relationship is unique and very special.
When a beloved pet dies, it has an impact on us, it is an important relationship. So do not be surprised if you grieve in the same way you would for another human being. This is normal, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, there is nothing wrong in this grief. Moving on may mean getting another pet, we did, this does not mean that you love the previous one less, you are not replacing it. They are all unique little individual personalities and will come with their own challenges and memories. I cannot imagine living without a little companion in our life.
Perhaps you’ve lost a pet recently, and need some advice on how to move on. Maybe you’re worried about how to tell your children, or are worried about asking for time off work. Or is your pet ill and you don’t know how you’re going to cope when they finally pass.
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