10 Tips to help you become a self liker rather than a self loather

love yourselfDon’t be afraid to confront your failings. Being aware of limitations can give you options to either change them or learn to live with them, they are part of who you are, what makes you an individual, and others may love you for them.

  1. Spend time to enjoy your accomplishments – When you’ve done something well, don’t be afraid to admit that you succeeded, and enjoy the moment. It doesn’t have to be something earth-shattering: Having cooked a good meal, eat it with pleasure and allow any compliments from those you cooked for to sink in.

  2. Look at yourself in the mirror and look for the things you do like about yourself. Perhaps your make up isn’t perfect and that spot on your chin is obvious. But what about the great job you did on your hair? Look at your lovely smile and the change it makes as it lights up your face. If all else fails, find a mirror with better lighting.

  3. Aim to be a better person, but don’t expect changes to happen all at once. You might be completely unhappy with your weight and can’t stand the thought that the pounds aren’t melting off faster. Give yourself a realistic timeline and measure yourself against smaller, achievable goals, or research what skills you may need to change and plan to learn them.

  4. Spend a weekend day or evening without worrying about how you look. Try a make up free Sunday or a grubby t-shirt Tuesday night. See what it’s like to be yourself without being concerned about impressing anyone else. Relax and enjoy just being you

  5. Thinking about the past is ok, but don’t let yourself be overwhelmed with regret. You might wish like anything that you could turn back the clock and not have said the hurtful thing you said to your friend. Once you’ve uttered those words, though, you can’t unsay them. However, you may have learned something useful about yourself in the process and certainly can make every effort to apologize or make amends. Avoiding regrets is impossible it is how you choose to deal with them that improves self love.

  6. Understand that no one is perfect. When you’re in a place of low self-love, you believe that everyone is better than you. It’s possible that others are better than you in certain ways, but that doesn’t mean you’re any less of a person yourself, and are probably skilled in something they would struggle with. So instead of comparing yourself negatively, accept that fact, and then see if you can learn from it. Being an individual is better than being a clone of someone else, and if you admire something in others then you can use the opportunity to acquire that skill yourself. Mistakes happen, learn from them then let them go.

  7. Enjoy your personality, foibles and all. So perhaps you’re a little bit too meticulous and want everything to be perfect. If however, things don’t work out as you wish and you start to berate yourself for your weaknesses, stop and do a reality check. So you spilled coffee all over your brand-new tablecloth. OK, maybe you’re a bit clumsy. That doesn’t mean you’re worthless. Find a way to use your quirks to your advantage instead.

  8. Like “most” of yourself as much as you can. You’re may not reach 100% self-satisfaction, but maybe you can get to 75 or 80%. You may feel as if you are not good enough, but others may be looking at you and wishing they were you.

  9. Stop listening to the ‘negative ninny’ or internal voice. If you had a friend who was so negative about you, would you keep them around? Be kinder to yourself and let the self critic learn to be quiet.


About harmony4mindandbody

I am a clinically trained Hypnotherapist, Life Coach,NLP master and reflexologist. My aim is to help people acheive their full potential / dreams in life using all of the tools at my disposal,
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